Dating a swede
It was kind of rude.” (I have no problem calling someone out on their behavior – maybe that’s the American in me.) “I was hungry,” he said simply, then shoved yet another piece of hart bröd that he had smothered with butter, egg and caviar, into his mouth.
At first I chalked up his impoliteness to a personality flaw but after a few weeks and months of living in Stockholm, where I noticed how most people don’t give up their seat on the metro to pregnant women or the elderly, I realized that perhaps this is simply part of Swedish culture.
I suppose the only thing I’ve learned how to do is keep my expectations low (and I mean exceedingly low) when it comes to chivalrous behavior.
That way if a Swedish guy does go out of his way to do something nice for me, I’m pleasantly surprised when it happens and not at all disappointed when he doesn’t do it again.
Just as we pulled up outside the hotel, I remembered him paying by card and then the next minute I looked to see that he had up and disappeared, having already booked it inside, not bothering to wait the maybe one minute it would have taken for me to join him.
I’ve always been fascinated by Scandinavia and their many progressive ways of life, but did you know this translates into dating life, too? That’s when I had my blinding flash of inspiration: I would give him a note.
Claire selflessly shares a blush-worthy moment in order to open our eyes the ways of the Swedish dating world. From Vikings to Vampires, it’s fair to say that they’ve kept us all enthralled for several centuries now. On my way out of the bar, I would make a little detour past his table, slip him a note with my name and phone number on it with an alluring smile, then disappear into the night, leaving behind a sense of mystery and intrigue. I left behind less a sense of mystery and more a dent in his sweater from where my nose awkwardly smooshed into it. At that point I was just relieved not to give him a thumbs up or tap the side of my nose or mime being stuck in a box.
” Both of them were stupefied, for lack of a better word, by his politeness.
My ex, looking slightly sheepish, could only shrug in response. ” (Our relationship sadly didn’t last, but his manners, I imagine, would have.) Defined as “courteous and gallant, esp.