No dating during codependency recovery
For many people, the reason behind excessive emotional reliance on a partner is co-dependency -- a tendency to put other's needs before their own.
Recently, I asked a client this question: "What is it that stops you from getting what you want out of a relationship?
You might avoid confronting your partner about important issues because you fear rejection or worry more about a partner's feelings than your own.
• Define your self-worth by others: Do you care too much about what others think of you?
They often feel self-assured and autonomous -- confident they can take care of themselves while others can't.
And when her partner, Tyler, doesn't treat her well, or devalues her love, she wonders why she wasn't worth fighting for.If your current relationship is destructive, look at ways you self-sabotage and examine your own behaviors.• Challenge your beliefs and self-defeating thoughts about your self-worth. • Remind yourself daily that it's healthy to accept help from others and a sign of strength rather than weakness.Many women remain in dysfunctional marriages because they are convinced that this is what they deserve." In some cases, there is no need to end the relationship.I've learned that relationships can heal if people change.