Psychology of dating sites
The paper cited previously suggests that rather than ensuring you run out of things to talk about, this can actually improve a date's chances, stating this "has the potential to foster a greater attraction upon a first meeting", but only if this virtual period is kept brief -- "a few weeks or less" -- after which time the effect seems to diminish.But is there a danger in the "shopping list" nature of dating sites harbouring unrealistic expectations?Spend any amount of time on OKCupid packing dual X chromosomes and you're likely to be indecently propositioned or sent abusive messages with more regularity than you'd hope for in a civilised society.This is no secret, with plenty of websites documenting the phenomenon (all links often not work safe). Psychologist Dr Jessamy Hibberd believes that along with the usual internet level of trolling, much of the directness in online dating occurs because all interactions are in a "social vacuum".Read on for the answers…and tips to avoid the friend zone yourself! It can be difficult to exchange gifts with boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, partners, and special friends. Everyone has a formula, method, technique, or approach for the best relationship.
On top of this, anonymity and the lack of social cues that a face-to-face meeting would provide can cause the more obnoxious sides of humanity to emerge with depressing regularity, where no attempt is made to connect with the masses of information available on a profile.
But is dating online that different from the traditional methods on a psychological level?
For those actively looking for a relationship (or at least no-strings fun), there is no shortage of websites available, from straight up dating sites like OKCupid, e Harmony and Match to niche communities like Tastebuds (music matching), JDate (for Jewish singles) and even the eyebrow raising Clown Passions (you can guess).
It's one thing to be told that there's "plenty more fish in the sea", but quite another when the sealife is grouped together by interests, availability and flattering photographs.
The wealth of available singles flooding the mind can also cause conflation of information, and here the paper from the Association of Psychological Science is unequivocal: "browsing many profiles fosters judgemental and assessment-oriented evaluations that can cognitively overwhelm users".